Wedding advice for life and creativity

When I first started planning my wedding, I continued writing. I told myself I could do it. I could juggle two jobs, plan a wedding, workout, and nurture a slowly budding writing career, right?

Fast forward one year during our two-year engagement and I realized I couldn’t do it all and sleep. Solid wedding advice crept to the surface. A wise coworker told me:

“Choose three things that matter to you the most. Focus on those three things and only those three things. Then assign everything else to someone else or don’t worry about it.”

At the time her words echoed in my head during a chaotic day at work, I had two of three big things set in stone for my wedding. But in my life? I was trying to run on nearly dead batteries. So I decided to choose three things to focus on in life—writing was not one of them, and that’s okay.

If you’ve never planned a wedding before, you’re probably horrified that I would give up on my creative outlet for a year. The thing is, I didn’t. One of my jobs is in communications, so I still wrote and edited daily. Plus, I continued to read and attend my monthly writing group.

Here’s what I chose to focus on for that year, but your list may be different:

  1. My jobs. During this time, I changed jobs and got a promotion. This was vital to my career and financial health. I never wanted to be a starving artist.
  2. Working out. This was (and still is) my stress reliever and creativity inducer. Being physically healthier made me mentally healthier. Plus, I wanted to look good in my dress on my wedding day. There’s no shame in that.
  3. Wedding plan. Duh. I couldn’t afford a wedding planner (see 1) and who else but my fiancé and I could plan our own wedding, anyway?

Now that we have said our vows, the cake has been eaten, and my name is legally changed, I’m glad I focused on three things during our second year of engagement. Wedding planning is like another job. And now that that third job is done and our lives are back to normal (whatever that is), I can replace number 3 on my list to “Write, edit, repeat until published.”

Don’t fret if your creative time is nonexistent or negligible.

It’s just like working out or planning a wedding—you have to carve out time from your busy schedule to be creative. Maybe you’re charging your creative batteries right now, and that’s okay. Sometimes life does get in the way. But don’t let life stay that way. Your babies will grow. Your classes will end. Your body will heal. Take your creative life back when the time is right. For me, that time is now.

Happy creating (or charging)!

Writing Resources for Kid Lit

I’ve been writing kids stories going on four years now and I’ve complied a list of all my favorite resources. Things that go back to over and over again. I hope sharing will help you on your writing journey as well. Inspiration: Anything can inspire you for your next story. Watch around you for those […]

DIY Valentines Day Cards

Is it just me or is it hard to find a Valentine’s Day card that says just the right thing?

Maybe I’m too picky or weird. But there is no way I’m looking through dozens of cards to find the perfect one this year. So instead, I’ve decided to make my own card and words. Lofty I know. But as a writer I know I can draft, edit, and revise till the words are exactly what I want.

For the card itself I’m in love with the watercolor look, problem is I don’t own water colors let alone know how to paint. I’d be better off letting my toddler paint instead of me.

So I’ve got a trick for those of us who are better with pens than with paint.

You will need:

  • blank cards
  • food coloring
  • Brine (1 tblsp of salt to 1 cup warm water)
  • essential oils (something dreamy)
  • glitter & glue (optional)

Make your our brine and wait till the salt dissolves, the water will go from cloudy to clear. Pour it into a shallow pan that fits your cards and add a drop of essential oil to the brine and stir.

Using a toothpick swirl two drops of food coloring on the surface of the brine. The color should float on top of the brine. Quickly, dip the cards into the dye and set aside to dry. Be careful- food coloring can stain so protect your surfaces!

Add more food coloring as needed. Your cards should turn out in a swirled watercolor effect. I went an extra step and added glue heart shape that I coated in glitter. You could do any type of add one you’d like but I’m a glitter girl.

All that’s left it is to add your thoughtful words of love and appreciation to the inside and enjoy your Valentine’s Day.

Happy Questing!

So Much More Than One Story

I’d like to formally announce I will be published in the online journal Months To Years!

Read The Last Bumblebee in the Winter 2018 issue for yourself HERE.

I’m thrilled. Let me explain why this is such a big deal. Stay with me.

  • One, my family inspired the idea.
  • Two, it’s the first story I’ve written that makes most people cry.
  • Three, it was a prompt challenge given by a writing friend.
  • Four, it’s my FIRST published piece.

Number four is the big deal. It’s been a long road to get good enough at writing to even query. If you’ve been reading my posts for any amount of time you’ve seen my struggle.  It’s been one of the biggest learning process of my life, surpassed only by parenting.

To break it down: I’ve been writing seriously for four years and querying different levels of stories and books for two years. I’ve had over 150 rejections from agents, editors, and publishers in that time frame, many of which I closed out as no response.

Persistence is key. Do not give up. Keep working on craft and prove everyone wrong.

While I still do not have a book deal or an agent this is a step in the publishing puzzle that I’ve been after for some time. I now have publishing credentials which is a big deal in this industry.

Happy Questing!


Ice Cream Characters

Characters are one of the hardest parts of a story to put together, for me at least. I tend to make them all the same base and just sprinkle them with different emotional toppings. But like ice cream there are so many versions of people it’s endless. So let’s dig into building character a bit. […]